Have you booked the Can You Do It Standing Up? college tour for your school yet? Allow me to bring my real-talk forum about love, relationships and impacts of sexual decisions to your college students.
Your students will learn valuable lessons they can apply to their lives IMMEDIATELY!
I enjoy helping people take better care of their money and improve their relationships. However, I LOVE leading the charge towards the cause of celibacy and abstinence. Check out my interview on PeachtreeTV’s Public Affairs.
No matter how much you attempt to progress professionally, it has no direct benefit on your ability to attract and experience love. It doesn’t matter how many meetings you lead, how many deals you close, or how many business problems you solve.
Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve heard news come out about the failed marriages of politicians, athletes, entertainers, pastors, and various business leaders. Unfortunately, their million-dollar net worth had no impact on their ability to save their marriages. The reality is, no matter how much money you have you can’t buy true love.
As I sit back and think about the people in my life who have been able to successfully navigate the peaks and valleys of marriage, it truly comes down to a few key principles:
- Learn the art of friendship. Today’s society has created a cart before the horse mentality in the minds of those seeking relationships. We have been trained to identify someone whom we are attracted to, talk on the phone for a couple of days, go out to dinner and a movie, and then pursue an intimate relationship. Unfortunately, this formula has led us to a culture of practicing divorce. Because we haven’t built a solid friendship with the person we are pursuing an intimate relationship with, it’s very easy to abort ship when things in the relationship start to go awry. True friendship keeps you anchored during trying times. This principle works for the CEO who makes millions of dollars or for the blue-collar worker who makes minimum wage.
Single women: Would you date a man who is absolutely committed to celibacy?
No sex until marriage. Not even once. And it’s not negotiable.
Kenny Pugh, author, financial professional, motivational speaker, is taking an unconventional approach to life as a black man in 2013: Sexual abstinence.
At 38 years old, Pugh is black, male and heterosexual, and hasn’t had sex in more than seven years. And he doesn’t plan to be sexually intimate with a woman until he gets married.
“I’ve been celibate for seven years and I’m an advocate for a lifestyle that empowers people to make good decisions about relationships moving forward,” Pugh said in a recent interview with BlackAmericaWeb.com.
It’s an old-school philosophy in a new-age era because sex, Pugh says, clouds good judgment. But some women aren’t down for celibacy, Pugh said, and some openly question if he’s really heterosexual.
Pugh, a contributing writer with Black Enterprise magazine, is promoting his new book: “Can You Do It Standing Up: A Different Position On Relationships.”