If you can stay disciplined, abstinence might help keep your finances in order
When I first released my book Can You Do It Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships, I was constantly asked about my inspiration for writing it. My first reason was to help improve people’s relationships spiritually, personally and interpersonally. My second reason was because I am a BIG advocate for abstinence! In this era of “try it before you buy it,” people seem to be sharing almost everything but marriage covenants. This approach to life has directly/indirectly influenced a shift in our family structure, how people view themselves, how people relate to one another and ultimately the next generation.
Now before you tune-out, please continue reading to consider how sex can cost you…literally.
Prevention of Pregnancy & STDs – When you examine the price you pay in order to protect against pregnancy or STDs, it can cost you $250-$600/year for condoms or birth control pills. Imagine if you were able to remove this expense and deposit that same amount into a savings or investment account? Or better yet, apply this to outstanding credit card or other outstanding debt?
Treatment of STDs – Our country experiences 19 million new infections every year. There is an associated cost for treating these diseases to the tune of roughly $13Billion (according to the Center for Disease Control). If you happen to be one of the individuals impacted by an STD, it may result in you having to pay for an unpleasant visit to the clinic for a shot, or ongoing treatment (in the case of HIV, herpes, etc.). You may never find yourself in this category, but if you do…it can cost you.
Unplanned Pregnancy – I hear countless stories about unplanned pregnancies by women from all walks of life. Whatever led to the pregnancy, there is an associated cost to raise a child. A momentary rush of pleasure can result in a drastic lifestyle shift requiring you to now account for $13,055/per year in order to raise a child. This cost doesn’t even account for some of the additional expenses like activities, private school, etc.
Abstinence – Abstinence is free choice and is the best measure for preventing against pregnancy and STDs. It will cost you a little bit of mind power for dealing with the many sexual messages promoted daily in our society, as well as the peer-pressure you’ll undoubtedly receive. However, you won’t have to include sex-related activities as a line item in your monthly budget and subject yourself to some of the items listed above.
There is a commercial that I enjoy that can help shed light on this topic:
- Box of Condoms (36 count) – $20.79 or roughly $250/year
- Supply of Birth Control Pills – $180 – $600/year
- Abortion – $400+
- Cost to treat STDs for the US Health Care System – $13Billion (according to the Center for Disease Control)
- Cost to Raise a Child – $13,055
- Abstinence – FREE
- Peace of Mind – Priceless
Kenny Pugh is a Life & Relationship Strategist, Author of ‘Can You Do It Standing Up?’, Speaker, Host of the Chat Kafe Radio Show (http://www.chatkafeonline.com), singles leader and sought-after speaker on singleness, relationships, finances and life. You can find more information about Kenny at http://www.kennypugh.com. You can follow him on Facebook at Kenny Pugh or on Twitter @mrkennypugh.
In 1986, Janet Jackson came out with a popular hit titled “Let’s Wait A While” that took the country by storm. The words of the hit song used to epitomize the approach that ‘quality’ women took when dealing with men in dating and relationships. Unfortunately, things have shifted from “Let’s Wait A While” to a “have-to-have it” mentality.
The modern day approach is pretty predictable and standard. Man meets woman. They exchange information. They go out. Man taps into the mind of the woman. Proper mind tapping results in an open heart and open body experience. It’s usually that easy. Tupac stated it best in his song “I Get Around” when he said, “I don’t want it if that’s easy!” This can be better translated as “I won’t want YOU if it’s that easy!”
Now there is nothing wrong with the above formula as long as it’s with the person you are destined to spend your life with. However, the above equation has gone from a Hollywood fairytale experience, to a merry-go-round experience with the flavor of the week. Would you share your retirement account with someone who isn’t vested? Well, why treat your personal treasure with someone who isn’t licensed? Hmmm…
Have women taken on a more male-minded mentality when it comes to sex?
Do women have a ‘probation’ period before they release themselves physically to someone they’re dating?
Why NOT make men wait for the prize if you believe it’s worth it?
Why don’t men take a “Let’s Wait A While” approach when dealing with women?
Do men not respect women who make a commitment to saving their treasure for marriage?
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