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  • Seven Years Without Sex: Author Kenny Pugh Tells Why He Says ‘No’ to Sex (BlackAmericaWeb.com)

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    Single women: Would you date a man who is absolutely committed to celibacy?

    No sex until marriage. Not even once. And it’s not negotiable.

    Kenny Pugh, author, financial professional, motivational speaker, is taking an unconventional approach to life as a black man in 2013: Sexual abstinence.

    At 38 years old, Pugh is black, male and heterosexual, and hasn’t had sex in more than seven years. And he doesn’t plan to be sexually intimate with a woman until he gets married.

    “I’ve been celibate for seven years and I’m an advocate for a lifestyle that empowers people to make good decisions about relationships moving forward,” Pugh said in a recent interview with BlackAmericaWeb.com.

    It’s an old-school philosophy in a new-age era because sex, Pugh says, clouds good judgment. But some women aren’t down for celibacy, Pugh said, and some openly question if he’s really heterosexual.

    Pugh, a contributing writer with Black Enterprise magazine, is promoting his new book: “Can You Do It Standing Up: A Different Position On Relationships.”

     

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  • BlackEnterprise.com: 4 Ways Abstinence Can Save You Money

    If you can stay disciplined, abstinence might help keep your finances in order

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    When I first released my book Can You Do It Standing Up? A Different Position on Relationships, I was constantly asked about my inspiration for writing it. My first reason was to help improve people’s relationships spiritually, personally and interpersonally. My second reason was because I am a BIG advocate for abstinence! In this era of “try it before you buy it,” people seem to be sharing almost everything but marriage covenants. This approach to life has directly/indirectly influenced a shift in our family structure, how people view themselves, how people relate to one another and ultimately the next generation.

    Now before you tune-out, please continue reading to consider how sex can cost you…literally.

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    Prevention of Pregnancy & STDs – When you examine the price you pay in order to protect against pregnancy or STDs, it can cost you $250-$600/year for condoms or birth control pills. Imagine if you were able to remove this expense and deposit that same amount into a savings or investment account? Or better yet, apply this to outstanding credit card or other outstanding debt?

    Treatment of STDs – Our country experiences 19 million new infections every year. There is an associated cost for treating these diseases to the tune of roughly $13Billion (according to the Center for Disease Control). If you happen to be one of the individuals impacted by an STD, it may result in you having to pay for an unpleasant visit to the clinic for a shot, or ongoing treatment (in the case of HIV, herpes, etc.). You may never find yourself in this category, but if you do…it can cost you.

    Unplanned Pregnancy – I hear countless stories about unplanned pregnancies by women from all walks of life. Whatever led to the pregnancy, there is an associated cost to raise a child. A momentary rush of pleasure can result in a drastic lifestyle shift requiring you to now account for $13,055/per year in order to raise a child. This cost doesn’t even account for some of the additional expenses like activities, private school, etc.

    Abstinence – Abstinence is free choice and is the best measure for preventing against pregnancy and STDs. It will cost you a little bit of mind power for dealing with the many sexual messages promoted daily in our society, as well as the peer-pressure you’ll undoubtedly receive. However, you won’t have to include sex-related activities as a line item in your monthly budget and subject yourself to some of the items listed above.

    There is a commercial that I enjoy that can help shed light on this topic:

    • Box of Condoms (36 count) – $20.79 or roughly $250/year
    • Supply of Birth Control Pills – $180 – $600/year
    • Abortion – $400+
    • Cost to treat STDs for the US Health Care System – $13Billion (according to the Center for Disease Control)
    • Cost to Raise a Child – $13,055
    • Abstinence – FREE
    • Peace of Mind – Priceless

     

    Kenny Pugh is a Life & Relationship Strategist, Author of ‘Can You Do It Standing Up?’, Speaker, Host of the Chat Kafe Radio Show (http://www.chatkafeonline.com), singles leader and sought-after speaker on singleness, relationships, finances and life. You can find more information about Kenny at http://www.kennypugh.com. You can follow him on Facebook at Kenny Pugh or on Twitter @mrkennypugh.


  • Develop Your 2013 Love & Money Plan

    Love and Money

    As we launch into 2013 there are undoubtedly a number of people compiling their list of goals to accomplish. For many in our society this list of goals will include the search for love and desire for a healthy relationship. Let’s be honest, most people desire to have someone ‘special’ to spend their lives with so they don’t grow old alone. For others, 2013 will include the desire to improve their financial lives. Who doesn’t want to increase their monthly income while reducing their overall debt? Your love and money goals ARE attainable if you put the proper plan in place to begin your 2013 journey. Consider the following as you develop your Love & Money Plan for 2013:

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    1. Figure Out Who YOU Really Are – Until you figure out who you really are, you’ll waste your life away trying to please and live up to the expectations of others. It’s a lot easier being who you really are instead of playing the charade of who someone else wants you to be.
    2. Surround Yourself with Good People – It’s often said that birds of a feather flock together. Surround yourself with people who have experienced love & demonstrate healthy marriages. You’re more likely to remain in the same situation by hanging out with the same bitter, unhappy people you were connected to in 2012. Be willing to let some people go! Remember, good people are generally associated with other good people, which may lead to a potential love connection.
    3. Be Willing to Take Chances – There are some things you will not be able to truly determine until you make a decision and take a chance. You may miss out on the love of your life by overanalyzing whether or not he/she meets ALL of the items on your list. Fortunately, true love has the ability to trump many of the items on your list.

    Money

    1. Know Where You Stand – It’s hard to assess what steps you need to take when you don’t know where you currently stand. Start by documenting your current income, expenses, savings & investments. Knowing these items will give you a great starting point for developing your plan.
    2. Set Measurable Goals – Decide what you would like to accomplish. The most common financial goals are increasing personal savings, paying off debt or investing for retirement. Don’t hesitate to consult a professional if you need assistance in any of these areas.
    3. Don’t Give Up – Life is continuously filled with uncertainties. You can never predict when a car will break down, the furnace will go out or another unexpected expense will arise. However, no matter what happens in 2013…STICK TO THE PLAN AND DON’T GIVE UP!

     

    Although I can’t guarantee that you’ll find the love of your life in 2013. I can guarantee you’ll increase the pool of qualified candidates by following the tips mentioned above. Also, take comfort in knowing you’ll be in a better financial position by following the tips listed above and staying the course.