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  • Why Your Mate’s Character is More Important Than Their Money (BlackEnterprise.com)

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    Why a love interest’s money can only take you so far

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    Let me offer this quick tip to you as a public service announcement: If you desire a truly healthy relationship with someone, focus more on their character than the amount of currency they make or have.

    It seems that in today’s society, there is a lot more focus placed on income and not enough attention on people’s character. Unfortunately, a number of men and women have resolved within themselves to list income as an item on their future mate checklist. God forbid they run across someone who meets the majority of the core areas like love, respect, compassion, etc., but happens to work in education or in a factory. Is someone who meets all of the character requirements, but only makes $30-$50K automatically ruled out?

    I know it sounds absurd, but I’m sure many of you have heard of stories where a friend, family member or co-worker may have eliminated someone from consideration because they didn’t make enough money. If you haven’t experienced this personally, consider yourself lucky to not have had to deal with such superficiality. I believe our culture’s infatuation with money and success has been one of the contributing factors to the decline of healthy relationships. However, that’s entirely different topic to deal with.

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  • Love & Money: Can You Afford Not to Forgive? (BlackEnterprise.com)

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    Why your unforgiving nature may be leading to bankrupt relationships

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    In the financial world there is a debt-forgiveness option known as bankruptcy. Bankruptcy is an option some people choose when they have acquired a considerable amount of debt and feel as if they’ll never be able to repay it in an expedient or efficient manner based on their current financial structure. There may be many reasons cited for the accumulation of the debt including, but not limited to, credit cards, medical bills, automobile purchases, etc. However, the bottom line is when the weight of managing debt becomes unbearable, people may select an alternative that simply allows them to start over.

    Well, similar to the accumulation of debt from a financial point of view, many in today’s society are carrying a considerable amount of relationship ‘debt’ due to unforgiveness.

    Recently, I’ve had discussions with individuals regarding their inability to forgive others who have wronged them in some way. After reflecting upon those discussions, the importance of exercising forgiveness towards those who are, or have been, a part of your life became very apparent. In order to set the foundation of my perspective, let me first define what forgiveness is.

    Forgiveness is the process of relating to an offence committed directly or indirectly by yourself or an individual and releasing them from it.

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  • What We Can Do to Eliminate Complacency in the African American Family [Part 2] (BlackEnterprise.com)

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    More thoughts on fostering generational wealth for our families

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    In my previous article, Why Complacency Is Costing the African American Family, I posed a couple of questions in an attempt to initiate conversation about why African American men’s complacency is impacting the African American family’s overall wealth and ability to leave future generations in better positions financially. As anticipated, there was both support and opposition regarding the questions posed within the article.

    Asking questions about education and career interests are very relevant to the discussion about generational wealth. I’d like to ask another very relevant question before offering-up some potential alternatives.

    Why are we so quick to make babies, but unwilling to put a ring on the mother? In looking at the statistics, it is startling to see the rapid increase of single parent households. According to singleblackparents.com, 63 percent of African-American households are headed by single parents. Over 85 percent of the single parents are women and 46 percent of them have attended college.

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  • Why Complacency Is Costing the African American Family (BlackEnterprise.com)

    Posted on by kennypugh

    Thoughts on generational wealth for our families

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    The African-American family is currently at one of the lowest points in recent history. Critics, media and community publicists all weigh-in trying to allocate blame to the cause of our societal and cultural demise. I agree that the liberated black woman movement has influenced a shift in how the family structure was traditionally built, but also recognize the desire for a woman to better herself should be seen as an asset and not a liability. After all it is not her fault that a number of black men have lost motivation to better themselves.

    Despite the issues our black women possess today, you can often identify one of us (black men) as the source behind many of their troubles. Whether it’s abandonment by a father or mental/physical abuse in relationships…we are generally behind these unfortunate experiences, but I digress.

    Let’s explore a couple questions that need to be asked regarding black men’s complacency and its associated financial impact.

    1. Why are so many of us not finishing high school and opting to simply underachieve? It is not okay for this trend to continue, especially in a society that is demanding higher qualifications for some of the most basic employment opportunities. There is definitely a specific group of men that are better served pursuing alternative learning and skill development training (trade schools), but this should be the exception and not the norm. In health, we identify cancer as a disease that eats away at the various areas of a person’s body.

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