Should You Let Your Parent Move in? by Kenny Pugh (blackenterprise.com)
Moving a parent in could put a strain on love and money.
The decision on whether to move a parent in can be emotional and life-changing. As a larger population transitions into the latter years of their lives, this decision is one that will be faced by a number of adult children across the country.
James and Jennifer Cook, a couple who have been married for 20 years, are trying to learn how to deal with this situation. James and Jennifer have just sent off their only daughter to college and were welcoming the opportunity to begin repairing their fractured marriage. However, James’ mother has been sick recently. This is causing a level of added responsibility to the Cook household. James spends a considerable amount of time running errands for his mother, taking her to the doctor, and spending financial resources taking care of his mother’s household. Because of this significant investment of time and money, the Cooks are considering moving his mother into their home.
From a convenience perspective, the decision to move his mother in makes sense. James no longer has to travel across the city to pick her up for appointments. It also allows the Cooks to improve their financial focus because they no longer have to take care of two households. The aforementioned areas seem to be no-brainers when it comes to making this decision. However, as mentioned, the Cooks are experiencing some stress in their marriage. Moving James’ mother in could be the right move from the time and finance perspectives, but may serve as the final straw in severing their marriage.