Love & Money: Don’t Let Uninvited Guests Ruin Your Relationship (BlackEnterprise.com)
The more I research the topic of relationships, the more confirmation I obtain about the number of complexities men and women bring to the table in pursuit of healthy relationships. Most recently I explored the following question: “How can seemingly good men or women still be single?” Well, upon further review I’ve realized that men and women can appear to be good externally, have their material and professional ducks in a row, but uninvited guests eventually derail a number of their relationships.
Now you may be sitting there with a perplexed look on your face, but many of us (myself included) have at some time brought some uninvited guests into our relationships. It’s a good time to see if you can personally relate to any of these. If not, then share with a friend, family member or co-worker.
Memories of Past Women – One of the quickest ways for you to disqualify yourself from being blessed with a Proverbs 31-esque woman is to bring memories of past women along with you. Unfortunately, too many men feel as if ALL women are desperate and will do just about anything to say they are in relationships. This may be true for women with low self-esteem, who are uneducated or who lack proper guidance. However, women who bring education, self-esteem, self-sufficiency and a desire for relational partnership to the table are more interested in building a future than catering to your past. What does this mean for you? It means that you must be willing to embrace the progressive, entrepreneurial and successful mindsets in exchange for the insignificant, irrelevant female ego-boosters from your past.
‘Outside’ Male Advisors – One of the quickest ways for you to escalate the anger level in a man is to emasculate him by placing too much focus and faith in outside male advisors.