Every married person knows to be faithful, stay truthful and be there for her partner through good times and bad–they’re in the wedding vows, after all. But most seasoned couples would admit that some unspoken rules are vital for getting past rough patches and growing stronger as a couple. Here, experts share 10 of the less apparent (but just as important) marriage rules to live by.
1. Don’t criticize your partner’s parents or friends. You know how it is-your family can tick you off but no one else had dare speak ill of them. That’s why you should tread carefully with your in-laws and your husband’s dearest friends. “Even when he’s venting to you, your contributions can put him on the defensive,” explains LeslieBeth Wish, EdD, a Florida-based psychologist and licensed clinical social worker. “When you take position A, you prompt your partner to take position B.” Instead, says Dr. Wish, put yourself in his position so that you can empathize with him.
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Christmas Day is quickly approaching and there are men and women all across America scurrying to find the “perfect” gift for that special person in their lives. Unfortunately, a number of those relationships will be defined by the gifts exchanged, and not by the value of the relationship overall.
The ugly truth is that I’ve heard too many stories of the richness of the holidays going sour because gifts didn’t meet the expectation of the recipient.
Now, you might respond by saying there’s no harm in making your desires known. Men can tend to think, “If I really want a suit, maybe I should drop a quick hint and it’ll be mine.” Women might say, “If I really want that necklace or purse and he gets it for me, does he really love me?
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I recently had a conversation with a friend about a young lady he is currently dating. He asked me a question regarding debt, and whether it should be considered when evaluating a potential life partnership. On the surface this question may seem a little bit shallow, but allow me to share further details from the rest of our conversation.
The young lady — let’s call her Karen — has pursued multiple levels of higher education (BS, MS, doctoral degree) in order to further her professional career. However, pursuit of her additional degrees has led to student loans totaling around $180,000. Now at this point you may have your own feelings one way or another about this student loan amount, but my friend expressed the concern.
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